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I have just watched an episode of Judge Judy where she told a woman to her face, a woman who was separated from her husband and refusing to let him see their two young children,  that only a vicious, nasty dried-up old lady would do such a thing.  I wish that she had been around to say that to my ex-wife!!  My sister-in-law was over recently.  She is 77 and believes that it is all my fault!  She says it was terrible of me to have "deserted" my wife and children!! I cannot explain that my wife wanted me to have no contact.  I still have the divorce papers in which she says that she does not want the children to come into contact with any of my friends in case it exposes them to "sin".  We had dinner with another friend (58) this week and she said that for a husband to go off with a man is impossible for a woman to deal with!  All I know is that more than 30 years have now passed.  The damage is done and I have to accept that I shall have no contact whatsoever with my ex-wife, my children and my grandchildren.